It is said that the activity of newborns boils down to sleeping and eating. Unfortunately, this does not apply to every child. Many parents experience some kind of disappointment when they find out that their children have special needs - they are more demanding than other children.
High need baby, or who?
High need baby (HNB) is a child who has specific needs. The toddler is much more demanding, which is due to the peculiar reception of external stimuli. For this reason, babies in this group often cry, demand to be carried on their hands, etc. In a word: they require parents to be much more involved.
HNB is not classified as a disease entity. It is also not a disturbing symptom that could indicate any developmental abnormalities. Often, however, a very sensitive child grows out of high need baby, which may require sensory integration therapy.
How to recognize HNB?
All babies require attention, closeness and tenderness from their parents. For children in the high need baby group, these needs are much greater. Therefore, several characteristic features can be identified, on the basis of which the membership of newborns to HNB is assessed.
High need baby is an infant who has increased physical activity. He can't lie down peacefully. Wrapped in a swaddle or horn, he simply protests.
- The unpredictable rhythm of the day
Children belonging to the HNB group have an unpredictable rhythm of the day. One day they fall asleep late in the evening and the other much earlier. Once a nap lasts only a few minutes, and at other times they are able to sleep without waking up to 3 hours. Even rituals do not help eliminate the unpredictability of the rhythm of the day.
- Increased sensitivity
The HNB infant is characterized by increased sensitivity to the surroundings. The child is in a waking state while sleeping - it can be woken by even the slightest rustling.
- Insisting on carrying hands
Although every child likes to fall asleep on the hands of parents, HNB babies are unique in this respect. They cannot be put away in a cot - even when they fall into a deeper sleep. Many such attempts fail - there is crying. Depending on your child, wearing a sling (or a sling for an older child) may help.
- Increased need for direct contact
Infants who belong to HNB have a strong need for direct contact. They demand tenderness and closeness more often. Therefore, the standard is carrying on hands, falling asleep by the breast, sleeping in one bed with parents, etc.
How to deal with a HNB child?
It is not easy to be the parent of a toddler belonging to the HNB group. You must definitely be patient, because meeting your child's needs can lead to fatigue and weariness. You need to learn how to handle a toddler - below are some great tips.
- Look for your own ways
Only you know what your child responds best to. So give up the standard schemes, which in this case do not apply. Find methods that calm down your child and build a sense of security in him. It is often necessary to look for solutions on a regular basis.
- Accept the toddler
You must accept that the child is more demanding than his peers. Thanks to this approach, everyday childcare will be easier. Do not try to change it by force, introducing, for example, rituals - it does not help much.
- Give your child a lot of attention, but ...
Try to spend as much time as possible with your child - he needs it. However, you can not forget about yourself, because a moment of breath from everyday life will positively affect the relationship between you. Organize care for your baby from time to time, and go out to meet a friend or shopping yourself.
If you're the parent of an HNB toddler, don't blame yourself. You do nothing wrong - such features are inherent in the nature of the baby. You have to get used to it - sooner or later your child will grow out of this behavior. It is worth contacting other parents caring for HNB toddlers - this support group will prove invaluable and may become a source of effective solutions for dealing with toddlers.