Pregnancy / Childbirth

Name for the child - what to consider when choosing?


We are expecting a baby. We want to give him not only a good, dignified life, educate and raise a decent man, but also want to offer him something special. The name that will accompany him every day, throughout his life. Only - what to consider when choosing it? Which name will be the best, the most appropriate? Which will give our child colleagues, guarantee success? Does the name influence it at all? Let's try to trace the criteria and methods of choosing a name for a child.

Ancestry

Statistically, the most common criterion for choosing a name for a child is following traditionwhere parents decide to look for the name among the names of their ancestors. We give the name after grandfather, grandmother, less often after dad or mother. Often the name "family" is the latter. We want it this way thank relatives for the contribution they had in raising ourselves, we want to continue the family tradition or give the name by sentiment. In the worst case, we decide to choose a specific name, because it "falls" or family he expects this from us. Unfortunately, such cases also happen.

Fashion

Increasingly, you can meet with a choice fashionable name, which is usually broadcast in the given period. Names become fashionable under the influence of creating a movie or series character, but also thanks to a popular actor or singer. After all, we remember the Renaissance name Amelia after the premiere of the French film with Audrey Tautou in the title role (let me remind you that it was 2001).

Our generation is even saturated Annami, Barbara, Catherine, Pawel, Piotr or Tomek and Jakub. In the seventies and eighties, such names were fashionable. On the one hand, there are pros, on the other, there are cons to having a "typical, fashionable" name in a given period. In a small group of people of a similar age, several meet with the same name. The effect is that Your name does not accompany you every day, because in order to distinguish you from each other, the rest of the group must enter nicknames, nicknames that will individualize you. Is this a good way then?

Nowadays, he has been king among girls for almost a decade name of Julia. It is so popular that in preschool groups where I had the opportunity to work for 15-20 children (roughly half were girls) I was able to meet even 4 Julie! If this name is the most popular among girls for almost a decade, then what will the labor market look like in 20 years? The lady in the store is Julia, also in the bank, at the next desk, and in many other places. What's the point Is giving a child a popular name in this case is supposed to help in life or will it only hurt?

Associations

Another criterion for choosing a name may be a good (or negative) association. In childhood, we met a nice lady with a given name, in college he was our favorite lecturer who was then our authority ... Most often mentioning names, it is the association with someone we know is the most common and determines our choice.

However, there is something in the fact that when we pronounce, for example, Grzesiek, we immediately think to ourselves: "erh, I knew / knew one Grzesiek. He was so boring. I don't want my child to be like that ... "etc. We usually assign specific features to given names. They are in our head so closely associated with the name that we usually can not "cut off" from it and look at the name completely objectively. However, are such associations and assigning specific features completely groundless?

Etymology

This is a very strong criterion, increasingly popularized and increasingly used.

Etymology - from ancient Greek - root sources (etymos: the root of each word, primary, initial meaning; logos: cause), is a linguistic department that studies the origin of words, changes in their meaning and form over time. The task of etymological research is to reconstruct the word, detect the supposed primary meaning, explain its further semantic development, and explain the morphological structure. Etymological research is often based on comparative analysis.

Thanks to the numerous pages containing names and their etymology, we can learn what the chosen name means, where it comes from, how old it is, what traits it carries, what "patrons" it has, as well as when celebrating the name day, what are the most popular diminutive and what outstanding personalities bore and bear that name. We can also know the professional predisposition for a given name. And so Antonina (very popular today Tosia) will work as a museum curator or librarian, and Marek is great as a journalist or employee of uniformed services.

Many people believe that a name can be carried along increased chance of success in life. To the extent that they also attribute character traits to the given name, not their own genes! Personally, I think "there is something to it." I would not necessarily take the key role of genes, but I have paid attention to this. Perhaps the reason is that in my environment, exceptionally etymologies of names suited my friends, including myself. It is obvious that the descriptions are constructed so that they fit almost all holders of a given name, giving the impression of absolutely reliable and factual. Despite this awareness, I believe that a name can have certain predispositions or traits.

Originality

Another criterion is the willingness to give the original name, almost at all costs. We try so hard to give our child a unique and unique name that we search for him among neologisms or names of foreign origin. And so Nicolas is becoming more and more popular, instead of our Polish Santa Claus. The name is the same. And yet we prefer to give a "less common" version among peers. But will it be easier for our child to go through life with such a name? If the parents' profession involves frequent trips abroad or even a change of residence, then giving the international name seems logical. If the family is multinational or multi-faith, then it is also clear and sensible to us. What else the family is native Polish, and the occupations limit travel within the poviat or province. In this case, giving your son a name, e.g. Kilas (name of Greek origin) seems to be unnecessary "combining".

Yet another group are parents who want to give their child an extremely original name, reaching often for neologisms or proper names defining a forest, lake, river or atmospheric phenomenon. This is why the topics that can be given to children and which the Office will not agree on are often raised in the media. Hence the official criteria, often misunderstood by parents. Well, "what's so strange that I want to name my child like a favorite river or lake from previous holidays, on which this child after many years managed to create? A contentious and not always understood issue, both among officials and parents. In my opinion, it's probably not entirely nice to be called Rainbow or Dżesik (Polish version not allowed by the Polish Language Council). While adults will accept this name, children can be violent and the likelihood of being laughed at is huge. And was that what we were aiming at, giving the child a name so that it would be ridiculed and pointed out with his fingers and thus hated his name?

Other

It remains, I suspect, that a very large group of parents who did not follow any of the above criteria. So what else are there?
Rummaging through the forums, I came across the name choices:

  • By lot - One of the parents was going through the calendar, the other said "STOP" at the chosen moment and from among those 2 - 3 that were given on that day the child's name was chosen. Some entries said that if there were male names and the child was to be a girl, it was converted into a female version of the name and given. An interesting way, although quite risky. Because what name to give a boy if on a given day he is celebrating, for example, Halina?
  • For a specific letterbecause this is family tradition. From history it is a way taken from ... breeders of purebred animals! Once horses were given names in this way, this rule prevailed in the upper realms. For some time it has been found among dog and cat breeders. Nevertheless, it is also an interesting way to choose a name.
  • Broadcast on the day of birth. Then the child celebrates his birthday and name day one day. This is definitely a good way to save your parents' wallet. After all, buying one gift a year to celebrate a jubilee is cheaper than two.
  • Broadcast with the birth of a child. Parents after birth looking at the child. they give him a name which, according to the child, "has brought itself". Parents choosing this way say that when they look at a child, they immediately see what their name is. I will give birth soon, maybe I will also look at the baby in terms of the name he brought? But what will I do if my husband "sees" a different name than me?

There are a lot of criteria that we follow when choosing a name for our child. I am sure they could be multiplied without end. The most important thing in all this, however, is to remember that the name will accompany our child throughout his life. Not only privately, but also professionally. It is worth ensuring that you feel with him exceptionallyHowever, I don't think so at all costs. In the pursuit of originality and uniqueness, we can fall into the trap of finding too original name, which in consequence can make our child's life it will be harder, less pleasant or even exposed to danger.

No more than a year ago, the case of a beaten racist boy was heard on the Internet. And it would not be surprising, because such cases are noted every day, were it not for the fact that the boy was a native Pole, and only the parents "liked the Jewish name." Unfortunately, the new friends at the new school did not like the Jews (in the absolutely stereotypical sense) and that Nataniel, for obvious reasons, had to pay for his (supposed) origin!

When i was born, name is Julia it was not only unpopular, but considered a grandmother and slanderer. Unfortunately, in elementary school I had a teacher who effectively discouraged me from my name, humming songs about Julia all the time, or asking the same embarrassing question "Juliet, where is your Romeo?". It wasn't until my adulthood that I began to accept this name. Today it is extremely popular, considered beautiful. Times have changed, fashion has changed. As you can see, what was popular in a few years is becoming a thing of the past, and what was considered blasphemous took several to several years to become the most popular and glorified. Let's take this aspect into account when choosing a name for our child.

And you, dear parents - what were your reasons for choosing the name for your child? Is there anyone among you who did not follow any of the above-mentioned ways? What criteria did you meet in your surroundings?

The most popular names in 2011 (based on data from the Ministry of the Interior)

1. Lena 8074

2. May 7664

3. Zuzanna 7569

4. Julia 6332

5. Victoria 6092

6. Amelia 5497

7. Alexander 5364

8. Olivia 5195

9. Natalia 5066

10. Zofia 3914

1. Szymon 7897

2. Jakub 7096

3. Filip 6768

4. Kacper 6514

5. Michał 5467

6. Mateusz 5272

7. Bartosz 4966

8. Wojciech 4340

9. Adam 4101

10. Jan 4034