Here are 10 sentences worth telling to children. To give them incredible potential and support every day.
I love you
Talking about feelings is not easy. Many adults have a problem with this. The greater, the less experience in this topic, and this is taken from home.
It is not enough to take care of the child, spend time with him and hug, you also need to name your feelings, showing how to express them in a natural way. Why is this so important? Because in this way we allow a child to learn that in addition to deeds, words have the right meaning. Both complement each other and strengthen each other.
There is another problem. While telling your child I love you when it is tiny comes to most parents naturally, it is more complicated to say the same words when it gets older and goes into adolescence. Meanwhile, it is very important, because a rebellious teenager needs these words as much as a few-year-old, and who knows more?
For many parents, the very idea of apologizing to children seems ridiculous. Why? It is rooted in a sense of "superiority" and the belief that the child cannot have any doubts that the parent is always right. Admitting that mum or dad made a mistake is related to their loss of authority. Hence the fear of saying "I'm sorry".
Meanwhile, this is one of the biggest misunderstandings. Apologizing to a child does not lead to a loss of authority. On the contrary, he teaches the toddler that anyone can make a mistake and admit it is not a sign of weakness, but strength. In addition, the parent who apologizes to the child teaches them how to plead guilty. Thus, the child also has no problem to do the same.
Read more - how to apologize to a child.
I understand you
Understanding is not about approving someone's behavior. One can understand why someone behaved in a given way and at the same time condemn a given way of resolving issues.
Understanding, however, is important because it sends a simple signal - everyone has the right to similar feelings, I know this feeling, I know why you did it, although you could do it differently. I don't condemn you, but I don't like how you did it.
Speaking, I understand you, it's like entering someone's world, getting closer to the child. Often the saying "I understand you" allows a child to accept what happened and to come to the conclusion that the situation could have been dealt with differently. Importantly, a child who receives understanding support from a parent calms down and finds strength and wisdom to learn good lessons from a given lesson. Often alone, which further strengthens his sense of value!
I forgive you
Every parent knows this feeling, when they are on the verge of nervous exhaustion, they keep their emotions under control. He is nervous so much that the easiest way would be to vent his emotions by a) scolding the child, b) using physical advantage, c) giving a disproportionate punishment. Practice, however, shows that these methods are not enough that they are not commendable, they are still not very effective. Impulse action rarely brings good results. The trick is to learn how to deal with emotions so that when you calm them down, you can say: I forgive you. Everything to give a model to a child.
I'm so proud of you
I am proud of you, and even better - You are certainly proud of yourself. Good praise motivates the child well. It has the task of evoking an internal impulse to act and making the child independent of external appreciation. In other words - our role is to act so that over time the child can praise and motivate himself.
Therefore, even better than saying "I'm proud of you" is praising "descriptively" - "But you're having fun with your sister. It's called harmonious play. "" I see you went to wash your hands before dinner. I didn't have to remind myself. This is called responsibility. "
Try your best
We always appreciate the efforts, not the effects. That is why it is better to say: "try your best" than "you can do it", because sometimes despite great work and putting a lot of effort into a given thing, it is impossible to deal with the given situation. As a result of failure, it's easy to give up and not try again. Therefore, it is worth strengthening the child's willingness to act, praising for the effort put into the activity.
I like spending time with you
I like to look when you sit and watch books. I like playing this game with you. It's nice to see you carefully coloring. I have a great time talking to you about this. You know a lot about it, I learned many interesting things from you ...
Most parents love their child. However, not everyone likes to spend time with children. For various reasons - boredom, stress, child's desire to perform activities that the parent does not particularly like. That is why it is so valuable to find ways to be together that bring satisfaction.
I believe in you
I believe in you, that you will do your best, that if you try to do it, step by step you will overcome problems and restrictions on your way. In this sense, belief in a child is highly motivating.
It is not about telling your child that I believe you will win this medal, be the first at the finish line, etc., but that I am sure that you will give your best. And this will be your personal win. No matter what happens ...
The main thing is to try and not give up
Success people are not recognized for how much they have achieved, but how often they had to rise after falling down and fight for their own, often starting from the beginning. This is what life is about, striving from one success to the next and overcoming obstacles that appear on the road. It is rarely easy and quick, usually you need patience, faith and strength to act consistently and not give up. Regardless of what we do - we learn to walk, tie shoes, paint horses, ride a bike or rollerblades.
What do you think about this?
The question of what your child thinks about this is an admission - your opinion is important to me. In addition, it provides an impulse for interesting conversations. You don't always have to answer your child's questions in a classic way, sometimes asking what your child thinks is the beginning of a very interesting conversation.