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"A child's dream. How do you forget about sleepless nights? "


One of the more serious problems for young parents is the lack of sleep. Difficulties with night recovery and the frustration of getting up several times effectively takes away the strength to perform demanding care during the day. It is even more embarrassing if most of the child's responsibilities fall on one person.

No wonder that parents try to cope with the situation in various ways, seeking help, specific advice on how to start sleeping the night again. Do Brazelton and Sparrow answer this basic book in this small book?

Why do children sleep badly?

Brazelton and the co-author in the guide emphasize that the way you fall asleep and change between the different phases of sleep depends on the baby's temperament. One infant falls asleep, wakes up and falls asleep again unnoticed. The other one cries loudly and demands attention.

Your guardian's behavior is also important. If the parent from the beginning does not give the child the possibility of falling asleep again after waking up, makes the fact of falling asleep dependent on his presence. Brazelton indicates that this is best seen in infancy when the baby is sleeping with his parents. Over time, moving to your own bed can be very difficult, because the child is accustomed that when he wakes up, his parent is with him, he has trouble falling asleep again. Even moved to his own bed demands what he is accustomed to ...

Breakthrough moments

Most parents experience the biggest sleeping difficulties in the first year of life, when the baby develops very dynamically. It is then that he begins to reveal his body, notices the hands, then the legs, then he notices that he can change the position of the body, fall on his tummy or back on his back, sit down, crawl, get up and walk.

It is no wonder that when so much happens, babies often wake up. At night he sits down and can't lie down, begins to crawl on the mattress, as if he didn't want to lose a moment to conquer the world, then he gets up and sleeps crying because he can't sit down. Brazelton explains each of the breakthrough moments by informing what parents of a three-month-old baby, six-month, eight-month, etc., can expect. There is also a rather interesting thesis that children before birth are trying to adapt their sleep and wakefulness cycle to the rhythm of parents' day and night. Long before delivery they are to prepare for acclimatization in their future surroundings.

Advice? Ah, these advices

The guide is saturated with interesting information, data on the development of infants and older children (also two or three years old) ... This is his strength. The author reassures parents, explaining that most of the disturbing symptoms are transient, he simply believes that many of them will resolve themselves.

However, readers want something more: the answer to the title question "how to forget about sleepless nights?" And Brazelton copes quite well with the explanation of this issue. Unfortunately, it is also unsatisfied when the additional questions are on their lips. For example, by writing:

"Having made sure that the baby is not hungry or wet, does not hurt or hurt him, parents can let the toddler cry for five to ten minutes, which helps to release the tension of the immature nervous system, overloaded with stimuli" (essential question, how can parents make sure that the child does not hurt anything ... It's probably very difficult to assess, Not to mention letting the child cry alone - which in many young parents can cause resistance).

In addition, the author clearly indicates that sleeping together with the child is not the best idea, because it prevents the infant from learning to fall asleep on its own. Brazelton bodes for problems. You can agree with this or ... no. Sleeping with a small child when the baby sucks the breast every 2-3 hours is a great help for many mothers. It does not exclude the possibility of later moving to your own bed. We wrote about it here. Therefore, it is difficult to state clearly which solution is better: the possibility of better sleep in the first months of life or renunciation from the very beginning due to potential problems later.

Fortunately, the author does not impose anything. He gives directions to the parent, emphasizing that he must make his own decision, taking into account his lifestyle, his own desires and the child's temperament and needs.

To sum up: I recommend this guide to people who feel they need support and want to have knowledge about changes in the children's sleep cycle. It will be useful for debuting parents who want to get basic information and based on them form their own opinion on the subject of infant sleep, deciding how to put the baby to sleep and what not to do. This guide must be "supplemented" by the positions and beliefs of mom or dad reading it. In itself, it may seem endless, opening the field for long discussions.